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Four Reasons Why A Christian Woman Should Not Propose to A Man

 "Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord." - Proverbs 18:22

 A wife is a treasure hidden that every man must find. Those that are favoured of the Lord find these treasures. Of all of God's creations a man can find nothing better than a good wife. For these reasons a woman should not propose:

 1. It is against natural/spiritual laws.

 I agree that men are not superiour to women, but we all would agree that the man is the leader of the home. When a woman takes it upon herself to propose to a man she is simply usurping the leadership position of the man. The man charts the course not the woman! Moreover, it is the responsibility of a man to find and the joy of the woman to be found. What joy would there be for a woman who is the one doing the finding? (Joy I say, not ego!) This is not a fact but cannot be ruled out: "if a woman proposes to a man, he will soon find another he desires".

 2. A man who cannot propose is not ready for marriage.

 The key word in marriage is responsibility. Marriage knots mean that one's life is no longer his own. A man who is not ready for such commitment will not propose. Some women may say they decided to help him since they knew he loved them but couldn't find the courage to propose. If you help him to propose be ready to help him all his life because he may never live up to his responsibilities to help you.

 3. It shows fear and insecurity.

 If indeed a woman is confident and sure that a man loves her and that they are made for each other, why the rush? One of the attributes of a virtuous woman is patience. If a woman cannot wait for her man what is the guarantee that she would be patient to stay with him when she eventually gets him. If you feel that if you don't propose to him you are likely to miss him, it could be an indicator that he is not the one for you.

 4. Submission is improbable when the woman proposes.

 The first duty of a Christian woman to her husband is to submit. Wives are to submit to their husbands in all things. The question is this can a woman submit to a man who cannot even propose marriage? Well, I will say it's possible with the help of the Holy Spirit; but we must ask "Is it the Holy Spirit that led the sister to propose?"
"Let all things be done decently and in order." - 1 Corinthians 14:40

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