Parents and Preferences

Have you heard your children call one of them MUMMY'S/DADDY'S PET?

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One thing you shouldn't do as a parent is to show preference for one child over another or over the others as the case may be.

And it is not as easy as it looks.

It is not about buying the same things for all children ( though that helps). It is about looking all your children in the eyes and feeling the same warmth of heart.

Human beings are made to have preferences. Food preference, clothing preference, people preference etc. This means we will have to swim against the tides to love all children in exactly the same way event though they have varied capabilities.

It is even more difficult when one child is significantly 'better' than the others. Then you will really need God's help.

REMEMBER!

Abraham loved Isaac,
Isaac loved Esau,
Jacob loved Joseph,
Joseph loved Manasseh (I think),
And the list goes on.

These men are examples of faith but couldn't hide their preferences with dangerous consequences.

The descendants of Ismael and that Isaac were at war for centuries (and am not sure its over),
Esau threatened to kill Jacob,
Joseph's brothers sold him to slavery...

NEED I SAY MORE?

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