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Sink the Ego, Say the Sorry

Have you wronged someone and are fighting within you to say that you are sorry? Have you bruised someone? Or have you done nothing wrong and someone is annoyed with you? Just say sorry.

The Bible says "Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed..." - James 5:16. Our words carry healing virtue we should use it right.

Is it possible not to bite your tongue? It is usually a kind of reflex, beyond control. That's the reality of human relations, no matter how careful we are, sometimes we step on one another's toes.

When this happens our reaction shows the quality of our character. Saying that you are sorry goes a long way in sustaining healthy relationships. In fact it carries an anointing to resolve conflicts quick.

Is it easy to say sorry?

This depends on a number of things, a sincere apology is obviously more difficult to render than one which is not. Saying sorry particularly when you are convinced you are right is also particularly difficult.

The important thing is not how difficult it is but the value it brings. Many people fail to apologize for wrong deeds because of a false impression that they have lost an argument.

Saying sorry doesn't make you small rather it makes you big. When you apologize you redeem your relationship with the offended and you earn their respect because of your apology.

More crucial still why you must tender sincere apologies for wrong deeds is the FACT that a grudge filled heart has no place in heaven. Stop asking who was right or wrong just make it right!

Saying sorry whether you are right or wrong tells two things about you.

1. It shows maturity. It takes only a mature mind to apologize. It is immaturity that makes people debate their actions. A mature person seeks to end all conflicts without justifying their actions. It is childish to hold on to an unapologetic position.

2. It says you value your relationship. There are times that you are wronged by an elder, say your parents, an apology from you may seem unjustified but it simply says that you value your relationship. This works in every relationship, once you say that you are sorry you build in a strong confidence that the relationship means much to you.

A heartfelt apology is curative. You can save that relationship before it is too late. Say you are sorry.

Shalom

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